Dealing with jealousy

http://homescope.ca/waterfront-rv-lots-available-for-sale-in-central-alberta/olympus-digital-camera-39/ Defined as a feeling or showing an envious resentment of someone or their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages. In a relationship this is for sure emotion that everyone will go through at some point. Even if you think yourself not the “jealous type” there will come a time where you see a waitress or old friend flirting with you partner that and the green eyed monster will rear its ugly head.

Psychologists see jealousy as a complex emotion that encompasses feelings ranging from fear of abandonment to rage and humiliation. Jealousy strikes both men and women and is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party.

I think a little jealousy every now and again is quite healthy,  it can make you realise that you may care about someone, if you didn’t would you really feel any jealousy towards them.

A sure sign you are jealous is you feel angry, anxious or threatened by someone (for example a waitress/waiter being a bit too chatty with your partner. 

The best way to overcome jealousy in a relationship according to the NHS is;

  1. Talk to your partner; no point in spinning out of control in your head trying thinking about what scenario has taken place. Speak to your partner about it and if anything they will allay your fears. Most people don’t like to talk about what they are thinking because it makes them look weak and insecure.
  2. Try to be objective; just because you feel there is a threat, it doesn’t mean that it’s genuine. Try to view the situation objectively.
  3. Accept some uncertainty: uncertainty is a part of relationships. You can’t ultimately control someone’s feelings

Everyone feels a ping of jealousy every now and again, even those who are not labelled as jealous people. It is always good to do some self reflection is you find yourself getting unusually jealous.

 

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